Ladies, why is it so hard to for us to make the decision to invest in ourselves? Is it Frivolity? Guilt? Not having the funds? Confidence? All of these answers were a viable option if you had asked me 10 years ago. I was in the thick of motherhood - 3 boys at the age of 12, 6, and 4 years old. Money was tight and confidence was low. I was not really living, just surviving.
Trust me when I say, I.get.you.
Also trust me when I say, you need to do something for YOU! I was not investing in myself in any shape or form those 10 years ago. I was trying to operate on an empty bucket and then hoping that being everything to everyone was enough to make my children feel like they have a good Mama. Because isn’t that the root of our martyrdom? Thinking that making everyone else happy will make ourselves happy?
I am sure you have heard the statement, “ If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” To me, that was portrayed in a view of materialistic things which never made sense to me, or rather didn’t apply to me, because I don’t consider myself a materialistic person. I can and have gone without “extra” things all of my life. My happiness has never been dependent upon such things.
But now? Now, I get it.
It is not the materialistic things per se, but it has more to do with the effect it has on your mental health. When YOU invest in YOU, you are conveying to yourself, as well as to the world, that you ARE worthy. I have learned that how you talk to yourself,view yourself, and make time for yourself, is setting the tone for showing others how to treat you! Confidence starts with your own chatter;your own actions.
So don’t be a martyr.
Don’t wait for someone else to see your value and hope that THEY will invest in you - be that for yourself!
I promise that it becomes a ripple effect. When you feel cared for and loved, you emanate that love and everyone you come in contact feeeeeeels that, without you even trying! Suddenly, you become full of patience, and magically have the ability to pour into your family, partner and friendships without feeling drained. The opposite effect transpires when you just keep chugging along ignoring the warning signs.
You, Mama, set the tone for your household. And that’s why we say, “if Mama ain’t happen, ain’t nobody happy.”
I am not saying that the only way to invest in you is to do a session with me, but I am saying that it is one of several ways that you can do it. It always gives my clients a confidence that they haven’t had before - or maybe they had that confidence when they were younger and lost it in the chasms of motherhood and are now rediscovering their bodies with new eyes. No, you don’t look the same as you did in your twenties, but that doesn’t mean that you are not sexy. Almost half of the pictures I used for this post and what is on social media are women who are 40+ years old. So don’t let your age or body size steal moments from you.
Book that appointment.
Set those boundaries.
Fill YOUR bucket.